Pardon me for not being able to write anything on here for a while now, I sometimes find myself embroiled in my own laziness and procrastination that writing a whole bunch of words that might never be read or understood by a bunch of people seems like an overwhelming task but i really do appreciate everyone that shares and reads my blog, you guys are so awesome :).
So a couple of highlights before I proceed with whatever my brain is going to spew and it will be sense just in case you are wondering. Of late most of the females around me are either giving birth, getting pregnant, kwanjulad (tradition Ugandan marriage) or hitching up their wagons onto a stallion. It’s not necessarily in that order, but if you have noticed most young people of late first get kids before getting married or just have kids and stay fishing for that one and only.
Now, the thing that is really funny is the maturity of the marriages (not that I find it hilarious that some of you are wasting our money by staying married for weeks and months, I just don’t like seeing that wedding charade going down to waste). Some of these marriages are so premature that you notice the cliff the couple will be falling off before they even notice it themselves.
People have disrespected marriage in a way that someone will get married today and the next weekend, he is going to be with some other lady locked up in some hotel banging holes into their mattress and vice versa. Yes there are couples that are sticking it out, taking that for “better or worse” vow seriously and loving each other through it all even through a couple of illegitimate babies and side wenches.
You have young ladies finding it normal to be known as the other woman or how Ugandans call it “side dish.” Some proudly hold onto that title wherever they go all for a couple of luxuries it will come with and disrespect his wife at every chance they get because he has told her that he will divorce the wife to marry the said side dish.
First of all, that is the dumbest thing a man will ever tell you because if he goes around saying crap about his wife and you believe him then you are dumber than dumb itself and do not expect me to even explain that further.
Then you men that get those side women and go ahead to treat your wife like crap, disrespecting her along the way after she has stood by you even when you didn’t have the money that you are using now to get those side whores that find you attractive because of what you have. Leave your children at home starving as you buy the side piece everything, fly her out of the country for shopping while you neglect your fatherly and husband duties.
Fact is children learn from their parents and the people around them, when you treat their mother like crap, they will grow up thinking it is normal to treat women that way. You give young girls that daddy syndrome and the boys to grow up thinking women are just objects to mess with. Look around and see how many women complain about their husbands cheating when he treats her and their kids right, very few. Then the women who are never satisfied with the good men in their lives so they just mess around like they are still single and unattached, tsk tsk!
I don’t write this being against marriage or the decisions y’all make for your marriages because I have seen marriages that have stood the test of time and still are, I have seen a man with two women living happily with all of them (1 in 100). I just got tired of people asking me when I am getting married like it’s a rat race with a prize not something that two individuals mutually step into as the next step of their lives that will be full of responsibility and a lot of things that will have to do as one person not getting married fwa fwa. Marriage is happiness not a 200 million UGX wedding with label gowns and a huge entourage, it is two people brought together by love and respect for what they have by honouring God’s promise for their lives under holy matrimony, what comes after that is a bonus of their love.
Thank You so much for being concerned with my love life, I am happy that people do care about it, Lol but when I am ready, I will get married and you will all know about it because I definitely want to, but for now I am living life the way I want it as a 24 year old woman should be, working her ass off (not literally of course) to make a name for herself.