A mother’s love is the most unconditional gift God has ever given us. When you see a mother with her child, you know there’s such a thing as true love. That love that we all deserve to have from the day we are born, a love that sets you onto a path of happiness through out life.
Sadly, some children grow up without knowing what a Mother’s love is, no one gets to show them what it will ever feel like for someone to rush to your every whimper. Asiimwe’s home is what you call a crazy house, there are children running all over the place a lot of screaming involved and sometimes crying when one of them falls down. She welcomes me into her kitchen and tells me Benjamin told him I was coming over, but she didn’t have anything other than chai mukalu to offer me. The kids start noticing my presence and with a lot of curiosity they all start taking a peak at me like I am some sort of alien. Asiimwe orders them to leave, then turns her attention on me. She has the “Janet cut” a common hairstyle for ladies from Western Uganda, she asesses me then speaks Rukiga. I smile and tell her that I am a Mugisu so I can’t speak her language, Asiimwe let’s out a hearty laugh that rings out through the house. She smiles and asks me if I am sure if I am not from the West and I assure her this Mugisu is actually a Mugisu.
I gave birth at 15 years, they were twins and my Mother sent me to Kampala after two months to work as a house girl so that I could money for the twins. My sister followed after that by giving birth at 13 years of age, the man was a Hajji and our Father needed money for school fees for the boys so Topi had to get married. While working in Kampala, I met a man, he was a builder next to my Boss’ home. We talked for months and later we moved in together, he was a good husband till the day God took him away, I think for the 30 years we spent together, God was smiling down at our life. My daughter gave birth at 16, you see it became like a family curse and do you know what’s funny? God gave her triplets (points them out) the three boys chasing the cat in the compound and then my last born gave birth at 17 three years ago to twins. They all decided to go and work in Malaysia, but after seeing what they say on TV, I think my daughters are prostitutes.
These children do not know who their Mothers are, they are taunted by their friends, I cannot afford to take all of them to school anymore, the rains have disrupted my stall at Nakawa market and I usually have no one to look after the kids. The girls have never sent me any money to help me take care of their children, the Fathers to my Grand children have never stepped into this compound. I want a better future for these ones, better than my own or my daughters, I want the curse to be broken. They should go to school and study, not make the same mistakes as us. I hear girls these days can lead companies, so my Evangelina can be that too. She is my only granddaughter and I want to God to smile at her the way he did me but even better.
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