It turns out people do actually read my blog and even better share it with their friends, so one of the of the people that read, knew someone who is a teenage mother, someone whose name he did not disclose, but it is someone he fathered a child with.
We will call this young man Tom, he is your typical 19 year old always rocking the trendiest styles and speaking in slung that it took me minutes to decipher what he was saying within each sentence. Tom just joined university, in fact he is getting done with his second year and in his word; “Campus is about living life mehn!” Tom read an article i wrote last week about the Straight Talk Foundation’s initiative under the Youth Enterprise Model that is aiming at informing youths about young parenthood and its sacrifices. When he read it, he said all he could think about was maybe getting in touch with me or just ignore that after all, “been there, done that!”
Tom was one the popular kids in school with every girl trying to date him, he knew his flag was soaring high. If there was trouble at school, Tom just had to be in the middle of it all; either the instigator or just on the sidelines cheering the rest on that he could enjoy the show. Carol, was the cutie “savedee” in the Scripture Union and Celibacy Club, basically your ideal high school virgin. Tom as a virgin too, but he boasted a lot about sex so much that all his friends didn’t doubt his sexual prowess. She had a crush on him, he found her alluring and when they sat together on a trip to Jinja, Tom knew he had to grab this chance by the horns. They were a couple within weeks, late night calls in the dorm and sneaky kisses behind the auditorium. Carol was ensnared, Tom was ecstatic.
During their senior four vacation, they met up with friends at a popular mall in town, Tom’s family is super rich and so he had a couple to take Carol anywhere around town that she wanted. Carol was charmed. They spent every waking moment together with whatever chance they got and the most electric moments in the backseat of his Father’s car. Innocence lost!
Three months into their senior five, Carol was vomiting uncontrollably, the breasts were bigger than usual and even worse, her sanitary towel supply was still untouched. The school nurse became suspicious and Carol was expelled. 6 months later, Carol gave birth to twins. Two beautiful baby girls that Tom says have taken away his youth.
His parents do not trust him, he works tireless in his Father’s firm to pay back what they are spending on the children and Carol’s school fees. Carol detests him, she has cursed him over and over again, as she sits for her senior six finals this year, she is hoping to become a Nun. For Tom, he is a Father now, the life that everyone is enjoying at university; the drinkups, the girls, the traveling, he can’t do it because after school he has to go back to work with his father. He is a Ssalongo now with two mouths to feed.