Things happen around us every day as we go by with our daily lives not noticing, it is the same thing someone will tell you when something bad happens in your life. “Life goes on even if you are sad or not” Resty remembers these words like yesterday, the day she made a decision that she has lived to regret over the years. She was just seventeen and looking forward to being one of the best in her senior five classes and also having fun in her last remaining years of high school. The excitement was always there; wherever she turned everyone in class was excited about something. Must have been something to do with the fact that they were teenagers who saw life through rose colored glasses, everything is dreamy and more exciting to look forward to at that stage.
Resty is the only girl in her family and she did not have to work hard to be the favorite, she was the one they dotted on the minute she was born. Her mother, a trader in Kisenyi market always made sure she brought back sweet treats for Resty and the boys whenever she could. “My childhood is like that ideal dream that most kids want but sadly could not have…” Her father always made sure that they did their homework and then went for weekend trips to destinations of their choices and of course Resty always chose the places they went to. In those high school holidays she would attend holiday classes in town and that is where they met. He was lean and tall, very quiet but with the most beautiful smile. He was really good at Math, she was not and she needed someone to help her with that small problem.
By the end of the holidays Resty and him had become very close, he lived in the same neighborhood so it was always easy to see him. He would write her cute notes and leave them with the maid, Resty and the maid would hide in her room and giggle about those lovely words he wrote to her as they dreamed up names to call her future children. He lived with his big brother; both their parents lived in the UK so they had a whole house all to themselves. He always invited Resty over for more “math tutorials” and her mother was glad she was taking extra classes. Within those tutorial moments, Resty had her first kiss it was electric. Resty was so giddy the whole night she kept smiling all through dinner and her mother noticed of course, mothers never miss anything.
One day, it was more than kissing; they touched and then couldn’t stop themselves and then she was pregnant. His brother was angry at them for being so careless, he told them he would take care of it and that they were too young to be parents. He took her to a doctor, it was a very gruesome process and she couldn’t stop bleeding. After she stopped bleeding, he took her back home to rest then she went home. She was sad and withdrawn, again mother noticed. She finished high school, graduated with honors from University and got married. He is married too, she cannot have children though. The doctor says that her womb cannot carry a child through the whole gestation period; it would kill her and the child too. The damage from the abortion was too much.
Did you know that we can have such talks as a community with our children, avail them with proper health services that do not deter them from not living their lives because of the mistakes they made in a rush? The Straight Talk Foundation under the Youth Enterprise Model; is empowering youths and the rest of the communities in Uganda with knowledge resources to help end teenage sex and pregnancies in Uganda. We can do it together.