Every one of us has been a teenager before and we know the pressures that surround you at that time, we know that everyone else will try to box you in so that you fit in and we know that years after that you realise that fitting in or doing what everyone else is doing is not worth it.
Teenagers don’t know that, they think that what we went through was years ago and is outdated, but the truth is teenage pressure have not changed since the late 80s; girls still want to be prettier than rest and hot enough for every boy to lust for and boys still want to be seen as the coolest on the school grounds.
The only difference with our teenage years is, there was no social media to make being a teenager another stress factor. Kids nowadays need the most expensive phones, a thousand instagram likes, millions of twitter followers and being everyone’s #MCM or #WCW. They are more promiscuous than before because of all the sex in the media today, every video, every ad and every song is sexually charged. The girls want to keep up with the Kardashians and look like Taylor Swift. Many of them are too embarrassed to admit they are virgins so they keep up a farce and talk a lot about all the sexual positions they have seen on the porn hub. They sext now, they send each other nudes and do things that would make their Parents faint.
So how do we handle this to curb the high levels of teenage sex and pregnancy? I am not a Parent, so I don’t know how you can do this but I am friends with my teenage siblings and with that, they somehow turn you into one of their best friends. They will not completely tell you everything, but at least they keep you in the know of their lives. Teenagers operate heavily on emotions and hormones, they don’t see things in black or white, they see purple and a couple of other colors.
When you talk to them and listen to them, you get to be in their world and understand some of the things they go through and this helps you be there for them when they make mistakes.
Don’t abandon your daughters just because they became pregnant, support them. You being there for them gives them the courage to go through all those ugly situations because they know their parents are there for them. Teach them that safe sex is cheaper than school fees, that if they can wait and abstain, its better than missing out on what it means to be a teen. You see society will not raise your kids the right way a Parent is supposed to, your home is where the biggest lessons about life come from. So raise your children to be independent minded not to easily fall under peer pressure and make their own decisions about life.